Imagine The Malboro Man in Therapy, the imagines just don't compute, does it? The marbolo man would not admit to needing help. The Marbolo man would not express his feeling's. For that manner the marbolo man may not reconize that he needs help. That, in a nutshell, is the problem with convincing men to seek help of any kind, including therapy, according to Jill Berger, PhD, who studies the psychology of masculinity. Traditionally, she says, society demands that men emulate a Marlboro man ideal--tough, independent and unemotional and that’s just not compatible with therapy.
Why Men Don't Seek Help:
In my research I have found many boys, learn from their parents and from other children that they are not supposed to express vulnerability or caring. They learn to suppress their emotional responses--like crying or even sad facial expressions--so much that, by the time they are adults, they are genuinely unaware of their emotions and how to describe them in words.
Men Control Your Anger:
For the extremely hot headed man, the littlest thing could make them fly off the handle. Some even enjoy having a bad temper; it makes them feel more masculine. Uncontrolled anger can even end a marriage or career or may be deadly. Is your anger is out of control?
Sex Addiction:
For healthy male and female adults, engaging in sexual activity and having sexual desires is as normal as eating, living and breathing. However, when your sexual urges and drive leads to other parts of your life being negatively affected, you may be exhibiting symptoms of sexual addiction.
Sexually Addictive Actions: Just a couple...
1. Do you masturbate while imagining sexual images, viewing explicit materials or remembering people you've seen?
2. Have you ever masturbated to the point of not being sexually interested in you spouse?
3. Do you attend "adult" theaters or drive-ins?
4. Do you visit nude (partially or totally) night clubs or strip clubs?
5. Do you engage in cyber-sex or phone sex?
Diagnosis for A Sex Addict:
In my studies I agree with many other scholars that sexual addiction is compulsive (OCD) and Obsessive–compulsive disorder (OCD) is an anxiety disorder. Characterized by intrusive thoughts that produce uneasiness, apprehension, fear, or worry, by repetitive behaviors.
The specific technique used in Behavior Therapy /Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is called exposure and ritual prevention (also known as "exposure and response prevention") or ERP; this involves gradually learning to tolerate the anxiety associated with not performing the ritual behavior. Exposure ritual/response prevention (ERP) has a strong evidence base.
In Closing
As you can see from the information that has been given on the blog these certain behaviors started somewhere and progressed, although some people try to lead a normal life most people will still end up be subdued unless they admit that something is wrong and then seek professional help. Men have to learn to get in tuned with feeling's that have been suppressed for whatever reason and learn to deal in a positive way or else the feelings will come out maybe in a negative way. Men what is the cause Suppression or Expression? Men understand that these two feelings don't go together it has to be one or the other. Think of it this way Awareness Engineering we have a saying that there is more energy held in suppression than in expression. By this it is meant that when we hold back from living life fully, from fulfilling our dreams, and being true to ourselves, we expend much more energy than when we flow with our gifts and desires.
In my research, men are raising men and I found in this younger generation of men they are being taught to suppress their feelings such as "you are a punk if you cry" Why, it is because someone taught you that?
Sex addiction could be another form that men use as a challenge to show they can have detached sex, sex with no emotions and it can be considered a trophy for them and their men's. The fact that they have slept with some many women and never felt anything "it was just sex." In reality if you feel you need to use this method to feel emotions and or to boost your stamina then it is suggested that you use awareness engineering to evaluate what it is that you are really missing could be you are not in tuned with your emotions and or are you addicted to sex?
Sex addiction could be another form that men use as a challenge to show they can have detached sex, sex with no emotions and it can be considered a trophy for them and their men's. The fact that they have slept with some many women and never felt anything "it was just sex." In reality if you feel you need to use this method to feel emotions and or to boost your stamina then it is suggested that you use awareness engineering to evaluate what it is that you are really missing could be you are not in tuned with your emotions and or are you addicted to sex?
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